Oppermann, Joyce Thelma (nee Deem) Late of Gayndah. Passed away suddenly with her loving family by her side on Sunday 13 June 2021, aged 92 years. Dearly loved wife of Bill (dec’d). Loving Mother and Mother-in-law of Maree and Charlie, Elaine and Tony. Much loved Nan of Linda and Grandma of Paul, Peter and Dean. Family and friends are respectfully invited to attend a celebration of Joyce’s life to be held at the Heritage Chapel, Maryborough Crematorium, Bruce Highway, Maryborough on Friday, 25 June 2021, commencing at 10:00am. Covid-19 restrictions will apply. Social distancing and hand sanitising is essential. The funeral service will be live streamed and anyone wishing to participate should email admin@jenlesley.com.au “Forever in our Hearts”
Dealing with anticipatory grief
What is anticipatory grief? We all dread getting the heartbreaking news that someone we love is terminally ill. Did you know that grief over the loss of the person with the terminal diagnosis often starts as soon as we get the bad news? Most people are familiar with the term grief and what it means, but many of us have never heard of anticipatory grief. Anticipatory grief is mourning a loss of something before it is gone. Chances are, even if you’ve never heard of anticipatory grief that you’ve experienced yourself if you’ve known the loss of someone you love was imminent. Anticipatory grief doesn’t just apply to situations involving a terminal illness such as cancer. You can also experience anticipatory grief when a loved one has an illness that changes their personality, such as Dementia. Not everyone experiences anticipatory grief, but if you do it’s important that you talk to someone to help you deal with it. What causes anticipatory grief? Anticipatory grief can come about for several reasons, and it may not always be the loss of your loved one’s life that you are mourning, at least in the beginning. When someone you love experiences a life changing or terminal illness, life changes for everyone around them. It may be that you are mourning for the life you had “before”, especially if you have become that person’s carer. It is natural to miss what was and for wish to things to go back to how they were if life has changed dramatically. You may feel that you have lost your sense of freedom and that you are burdened with the extra responsibility of caring for your ill loved one, and this in turn may bring feelings of guilt. However, feeling like this is a very normal response to such a big change to your life. Healthdirect.gov.au also states that you might grieve for the memories you share with your loved one, particularly as they lose their independence, their memory, and their ability to recognise you. You may grieve for future plans that will never happen and experience intense and conflicting emotions. Symptoms of anticipatory grief If you are dealing with anticipatory grief, it is likely that you are experiencing a wide range of emotions about the impending loss of the person you love, or, in the case of a permanently personality changing illness, the loss of the person as you know them before they are truly gone. You may feel anger, fear, resentment, guilt, dread, powerlessness and anxiety even though the person is still alive. Writer Angie Drakulich shares her experience with anticipatory grief for her father in an article published on the website Psycom. She writes, “[These thoughts and memories] invade my mind as I try to fall asleep and they are the first images that appear when the alarm sounds. They cloud my vision as I drive from home, to work, to the grocery store, and they emerge through tears as I try to get away … Read More
MURTON, KEVIN JOSEPH
Known as “Kevvy”. Late of “Greenhill”, Gooroolba. Passed away suddenly on Friday, 4th June 2021, aged 86 years. Much loved Husband of Dawn. Loving Father and Father-in-law of Darren and Rachel, Brenda and Spud, Craig, Gary and Jess. Cherished Poppy of his grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Beloved Brother, Brother-in-law, adored Uncle and special friend to many. Relatives and friends are respectfully invited to attend a celebration of Kevvy’s life to be held at the Gooroolba Sports Reserve, Biggenden/Gooroolba Road on Saturday, 12 June 2021, commencing at 10 am, followed by a private interment in the Byrnestown Cemetery. COVID-19 rules apply. Social distancing and hand sanitizing is essential.
KREHER, Charlotte Caroline
KREHER, Charlotte Caroline (nee Gleich) Known as “Lottie”. Late of Sandgate, formerly of Hervey Bay and Moura. Passed away on Saturday 29 May 2021, aged 98 years. Loving Wife of Eric Kreher. Much loved Mother of Genevieve and Leonard Connolly. Cherished Grandma of Karen Lee Ryan and Brock Thomas Connolly. Great Grandmother of Sophie, Abby and Imogen Ryan and Austin and Savannah Connolly. Sister of Leslie Noel Gleich. Family and Friends are warmly invited to attend a Funeral Service for Lottie to be held at the Malmoe Apostolic Church of Queensland on Monday, 7 June 2021, commencing at 3pm. COVID-19 restrictions apply. Hand sanitising and social distancing is essential.
TAYLOR, GRACE MAY
TAYLOR, Grace May (nee Kreis) Late of Mundubbera. Passed away peacefully on Sunday the 30th of May, 2021, aged 93 years. Loving Wife of Bill (deceased). Mother and Mother-in-Law of Lance and Norah, Denise (deceased), Greg and Julie, Brian and Rose. Cherished Grandma, Great Grandma and Great Great Grandma of her dear family. Beloved Aunt of her extended family. Relatives and Friends are respectfully invited to attend a Celebration of Grace’s Life, to be held at the Mundubbera Anglican Church, Lyons Street, Mundubbera, on Monday the 7th of June, 2021, commencing at 10am, followed by interment at the Mundubbera Lawn Cemetery. Covid 19 rules will apply. Social distancing and hand sanitising is essential. The funeral service will be live streamed and anyone wishing to participate should email admin@jenlesley.com.au “At Peace”
KYLE, Daniel William Campbell
Known as “Fish”. Late of Eidsvold, formerly of Brisbane. Passed away peacefully on Wednesday, 26th May 2021, aged 34 years. Beloved Baby Son of Kenny (dec’d) and Diane (dec’d). Much loved Brother and Brother-in-law of Natasha and Anthony, Ruby and Geoffrey, Kenny, Barbara. Loving Uncle, Nephew and Cousin of his family and special friend to many friends. Relatives and friends are warmly invited to attend a celebration of Daniel’s life to be held at the Graveside, Eidsvold Lawn Cemetery on Friday, 11th June 2021, commencing at 10 am. “Reunited with his loving Parents”
How to talk to children about death
Most people find death something that is uncomfortable to talk about, but knowing how to talk to children about death can be particularly difficult. If not done right, it can be a traumatic experience for both the adult and the child taking part in the conversation. You might not have considered the need to discuss death with your child, but unfortunately it is something that they will definitely have to deal with during their life. Whether your child’s first experience with death is that of a much loved pet, a grandparent sibling, parent or friend, you will still need to be prepared for the big conversation. It may be that your child hasn’t experienced the death of someone or something they love before, but they are worried about death in some way. You will still find this article useful if that’s the case for you. It can often be helpful to initiate conversation around death with your child before they experience the death of a loved one. We know it’s not easy, so before you jump in, grab a cuppa then have a read of this blog post to arm yourself with what you need to know about talking to your child about death. Before you start The first thing to remember is that death is a part of life. All living things die eventually. Plants, animals, humans… we all die. We suggest you are as honest as possible while still remaining age appropriate for the child you are speaking with. If you have the opportunity, it’s best to think about what you are going to say and how you are going to say it before the conversation takes place. Consider some of the questions your child might ask you about death and dying (we have listed some examples of questions children ask about death later in this article) and have an answer ready. How you answer may depend on your own religious beliefs if you have any. If you don’t know something, it’s okay to admit that, but above all else be sensitive to your child’s emotions during this conversation. Find a comfortable place to have this important chat with your child – somewhere that is not only physically comfortable, but also somewhere they feel safe and loved. If you have the conversation about death sprung on you, do your best to remain as relaxed as possible. While showing some emotion is fine, it isn’t the time for big displays of emotion. Take your time. Part of the reason such conversations can be so difficult is because we often avoid talking about things we find upsetting. Indeed, death is frequently a taboo subject, so if you feel like you will struggle with this conversation, practice with another adult first. Use the word ‘death’ This might sound harsh to some, but by using the word death we help to avoid confusion. Think of the different words and phrases we use to say someone has died – passed, passed away, passed … Read More
PRESTON, DIANA
PRESTON, Diana Marie (nee Brackin) Late of Eidsvold. Passed away peacefully with her loving family by her side on Friday, 14th May 2021, aged 80 years. Loving Wife of Dick (dec’d). Much loved Mother and Mother-in-law of Richard, Ruth and Rowan, Marie and Bob, Beverley and Steve, Janice and Duck, Helen and John, Kevin and Kylie. Beloved Grandma and Great-Grandma of her many grandchildren. Precious Sister and Sister-in-law of John and Cindy, Henry, Dawn and Stan (dec’d), Judith (dec’d) and Mick (dec’d), Ian (dec’d), Pat and Gary (dec’d), Pauline and Keith (dec’d), Noel, Claire and Bruce, Gail and Sammy (dec’d). Adored Aunt and special friend to many. Relatives and friends are respectfully invited to attend a celebration of Diana’s life to be held at the Graveside, Eidsvold Lawn Cemetery on Thursday, 20th May 2021, commencing at 11 am. “Reunited with Dad”
From funeral to death – what happens when someone dies
One of the most overwhelming and emotional times of your life is losing a person that you love. It doesn’t matter whether or not their death is expected – it is still a shock. Once you get pass the shock, the overwhelm sets in. Most people have no idea what they should do when someone dies, so in this week’s article we’d like to explain a little bit to you about what happens and how we help you. Burnett Regional Funeral Services is here to help, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It may be that funeral arrangements have already been started, particularly if your loved one’s death was expected. In this situation, all you need to do is notify us of the death, and we will get started on taking those arrangements forward for you. If no plans have previously been put in place, that’s okay. Call us and we will walk you through the process. We are here for you every step of the way, and please rest assured that your loved one will be treated with the utmost dignity and respect while in our care. Within the first 24 hours after a death, we make arrangements to take the deceased into our care and we will also arrange a time and place for our initial meeting with you. We will discuss both of these things during our initial conversation with you. Meetings happen where you are comfortable. This is usually at your home, but can also be at our office. What does the funeral director do? Our job as the funeral director is to do everything we can to ease the stress on you, and to take care of all of the funeral arrangements. It is important to us that your and your loved ones wishes are respected, and that their life is celebrated as they would have wanted. After our initial conversation, we will arrange for the body to be transferred into our care, even if your loved one has passed away out of town, in a different state or overseas. We will liaise with the cemetery or crematorium on your behalf, organise the service, liaise with the celebrant or clergy, work with florists, make all necessary arrangements with the church, chapel or venue of your choice, register the death of your loved one, collect the relevant medical paperwork and dispatch as necessary, supply the hearse, collect floral and other tributes on your behalf, prepare the deceased for viewing, organise any required advertising, source music for the service, prepare slideshows if required and provide memorial attendance books for friends and family to sign. We can also refer you to grief counselling services if you feel this would be beneficial. Our initial meeting Our initial meeting with you will most likely last approximately one hour, and during this time we will help you to make several important decisions about the funeral. We will also go through everything needed to register the death, which we will … Read More
TANZER, Pamela Jocelyn
TANZER, PAMELA JOCELYN (nee Law) Known as “Pam”. Late of Mundubbera. Passed away peacefully with her loving family by her side on Monday, 10th May 2021, aged 70 years. Beloved Wife of Brett. Treasured Daughter of Daniel (dec’d) and Jesse (dec’d). Loving Sister and Sister-in-law of Dotty and Harold, Dawn (dec’d), Marsha, Edna, Malcolm and Rosie, Michael and Lisa, Russell and Claire, Leah and Allan, Glen and Tanya, Neil, David and Suzie. Precious Aunt and Cousin to her extended family and special friend to many. A private cremation service will be held for Pam.